Why all the Questions?
For Good Reason Sometimes, wanting a quick answer or displaying your proficiency by supplying it may tempt you to short-circuit the development process. However, besides defeating the purpose of mentorship, there is a good reason not to. Wrong Yes, you might have considerable wisdom and expertise, but recall you gained most of it through error. […]
This Is HOW We Do It
This Is HOW We Do It In a series on mentorship, you should not expect a prescriptive message like Montell Jordan’s hit song. But for a few brief general rules, examples illustrate the practices you can apply to your mentor relationships. No Answers Here Mentors should spend far more time listening and resist the temptation […]
NOT Friends with Benefits
NOT Friends with Benefits You undoubtedly understand the importance of a frank interaction with a trusted confidant that leads to breakthrough growth. For this reason, I devote several messages to mentorship, and my experiences over the past year have continued to confirm my beliefs and provide me with fresh insights. What Mentorship is the process […]
Not What You Think
The Groundwork In previous years, I was reluctant to write about this topic because it is the other subject, besides politics, that you are not supposed to discuss. But it is too important, and I hope you trust me enough to hear (read) me out. In my prior years’ posts, I realized that I had […]
Birds of a Feather
Flock Together Noted author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn is correct: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” While I have previously addressed the importance of our associations, this year I want to ensure I have not overstated causation to the point of ignoring the more significant correlation. […]
Yes, Self-Centered
Your initial reaction to this title is that it is a criticism, an insult. We need to distinguish between self-centeredness, being grounded by your values, and selfishness, when your actions are indulgent to the point of being unnecessarily detrimental to others. Self-determination By definition, self-worth can only be judged by oneself. This issue is our […]
Warden or Teacher?
We spend fruitless time looking in the rearview mirror, ruminating over things we cannot change, and futilely hoping for a different past. Self-inflicted Sometimes we use the past as an anchor. We think we have been someone or someway for so long that it is our destiny. Remarkably, we do not have the same attitude […]
Keep Pedaling
Following last week’s post, I realized I needed to make one clarification and add a companion concept. Another Way You may need to keep moving forward so that a single insurmountable obstacle does not jeopardize your entire endeavor. Sometimes, you need to flow like a river and navigate around obstructions. An entrepreneur told me he […]
Quit? Of Course!
In our hustle culture, they tell us never to quit on our dreams, lest we give up right before achieving success. They proclaim Winston Churchill’s famous words, “…never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty – never give in…” but omit these words said in the […]
Shamed into It?
After exposing my cluttered garage and pontificating about disposing of unused stuff, I had to act; otherwise, I wouldn’t be an authentic 52 Stepper. Even though I proclaimed the virtue of giving things to those who could use them, my immediate motivations were to show you I could do as I say, escape the yoke […]